This Lady. You meet her and you are immediately struck by her deep, green eyes. She has a low voice that turns into the most amazing sound when she laughs and she does love a good joke. She is constantly complaining about her looks, curse those hips lol and really has no idea how incredibly beautiful she is.
This Lady is the child of trauma. She grew up in a time, however, where you just don’t talk about this stuff and so she pushed it down and kept going. I didn’t find out she was broken until I was way into my adult years – she hid it that well. I don’t know who modeled strength for her, but she had it even as a little girl.
This Lady was married at seventeen and had three kids by 21. How did she do that? lol Young moms today might turn to medication, but not This Lady. Nope, she didn’t even drink then OR swear, although she has always loved a cigarette. Very glam in the 1970’s. I am in awe when I think about how self-centered I was at that same age and yet here she was taking care of a family and putting herself last on the list. Did she necessarily know what she was doing? Probably not, but she was getting it done.
This Lady is a tremendous example of spousal support. Her husband chased promotions and dreams and she followed him for every one. To big cities that scared the crap out of her, to a province where the different language paralyzed her, to the stage of Amway where being in the public eye was her own worst nightmare. But her husband wanted it, so there she was – waaaaaay outside her comfort zone – for him. Wallflower? Maybe. Wimp? Not on your life.
This Lady raised not one, but two tough kids. One hopped up on anxiety, the other oppositional like crazy. Thank goodness for that third child with no issues lol. Tough kiddos have tough problems and This Lady did her darndest to love them through it all. She also taught them to put their heads down and just keep pushing through. You can call it denial or determination, but either way she showed them that strength is not always a grand event, but sometimes just getting up and going through the day.
This Lady had hip replacement surgery this week. With only an epidural. “I could hear the saw and the hammering” she tells me and I think any other human being would have called ‘Uncle’ and begged to be put under. She cried and fought her way through her first few days of recovery because morphine doesn’t affect her and they couldn’t cap her pain. I think I would have curled up in a ball, but she kept setting her jaw and just getting at it. ‘Cause that’s what This Lady does.
I am not sure what words This Lady would use to describe herself, but if Strong isn’t at the top of the list I don’t know what word would be. This Lady is mentally tough and as I am fond of saying, the just don’t make them like her anymore. They say struggle makes you stronger and This Lady is living proof of that. Whatever you do, don’t ask her to arm wrestle. My money’s on This Lady every time.
Love you Mummy Xxx